The Self Help Antidote
The Self Help Antidote
Being Human: A Conversation on Gender, Vulnerability and Resilience
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What defines us?
With all the messages we receive daily, admonishing us to be or do something, what is the common thread through which all of us are interwoven?
Returning to The Self Help Antidote for yet another fascinating and provocative conversation is Daniel Ellenberg PhD, a leadership coach, licensed therapist, organizational trainer and executive advisor.
Dr. Ellenberg is the president of Relationships That Work – an organization that supports people to create more emotionally intelligent personal relationships. He is the Vice President of the Rewire Leadership Institute, an organization that helps individuals, teams and organizations thrive in the business world.
He is the co-author of Lovers for Life: Creating Lasting Passion, Trust and True Partnership, and served as President of the American Psychological Associations Division 51: Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinities.
In this episode we discuss the different archetypes and roles we play in society and why Dr. Ellenberg believes that many of the masculine and feminine traits we exhibit are less about gender classifications and more about human attributes that help us understand ourselves and one another.
We discuss how each of our traits yield advantages and liabilities. What are the shared facets of life that unite us? And, why the key to resilience lies in part with our ability to remain flexible in life, expressing ourselves authentically.
Dr. Daniel Ellenberg can be contacted at:
Daniel@rewireleadership.com
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0:54:93
What is the definition of masculinity and femininity?
2:39
Being you. Human traits vs. masculine or feminine. How an inauthentic archetype lead to shame?
4:21
All traits bring with them attributes and liabilities. The positive and negative aspects of testosterone.
6:02
Identifying with traditional masculine roles, benefits and consequences.
9:29
How not doing the work of understanding one another is creating conformity in place of critical thinking.
11:18
The key to resilience is adaptability.
15:38
The Alpha myth and why there isn’t one success or leadership formula for everyone.
19:48
Social Anxiety: Three different levels of relationship; you, me and we. The social disruption of the tribe.
22:55
Why people believe things that aren’t true, despite evidence to the contrary
25:34
The value of masculine and feminine traits working together
31:57
The need for flexibility in the workplace
34:52
We are all vulnerable. Death is waiting for all of us. Vulnerability is the tapestry that connects us all.
38:06
Mike Tyson: Warrior to sage.
40:49
Let’s talk about death: Ontological Anxiety and the illusion of control
50:54
Why do humans have anxiety?
53:02
Conclusion
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